Do You Want to Build a Gay Snowman?

frozen imageThe other day, a friend of mine pointed me to a blog post that she wanted a second opinion on. She had read the post and asked herself afterwards,  “Is this woman bat shit crazy? Or, is it me?”

After reading the post and wondering why on earth some people choose to blog and reveal such crazy, I assured her that she was not the one with the issue for disagreeing with the blog, in spite of the number of comments applauding the author. I also told my friend that if she was crazy, then I was full on LOCO. Yes. In all caps.

Rather than send you to the post and have you contribute any page views to this woman’s blog or her ego, I will summarize the basis for this gem of internet published work.

In her post, she argues that the song “Let it Go” from the movie Frozen is about coming out and therefore, should not be supported or shown to kids because that’s not how Jesus would roll.

She then went on to write all the lyrics out and expanded on her theory in a torrent of words that were filled with homophobia, hate and ignorance. Shrouded in lots of Christianity.

If you know me at all, you know that at first I got irate. Angry. Really, really annoyed that viewpoints like this are shared with such condescension. That some people feel it’s alright to condone intolerance and hatred by arguing “But God wants it that way!” to close their argument.

I read through some of the comment storm and it was torturous. She got a lot of “Right on, sister!” and “Holla!” type of feedback from many who went on to quote some passage of the Bible to strengthen their argument.

I had to shut it down because I was getting so pissed off.

Why? It doesn’t take much to have a blog. A monkey could have a blog. In fact, a monkey could have written a better blog, I think. At least one that was slightly less hateful. So, it’s not like this person’s opinion should really matter to me. She had no qualifications she could point to other than being Christian and loving Jesus. I am not Christian, but I  found myself deeply offended for the non-homophobic, loving and accepting ones who might be a whole lot less inclined to believe that Frozen is a work of gay propaganda. I also found myself deeply offended for Jesus who doesn’t deserve that kind of company.

I am also just annoyed because whenever I watch that movie from now on, I will think of her stupid post. (Sorry if I have ruined it for any of you as well).

I know at the end of the day, not everyone will embrace or accept homosexuality. I get that. I understand that there will always be some confinement around beliefs that even time and more societal acceptance will not break down. It doesn’t make me happy but I am a realist. Haters are gonna hate.

If the movie Frozen is really about brainwashing kids into accepting someone’s sexual orientation, even if it might be different than their own, I will play it on repeat once it’s out on DVD. I will belt out the songs and teach my kids all the words and then sing some more, well beyond when they cover their tiny little ears and beg me to stop.

Haters are gonna hate, but if I’ve done anything right, my kids won’t be one of them.

P.S. I understand that everyone is entitled to their opinion.

P.P.S. Except when it’s wrong.



Bonbon Break

42 Comments on Do You Want to Build a Gay Snowman?

  1. Kerstin
    February 5, 2014 at 4:39 pm (1 year ago)

    I could not possibly agree more or love this post any more – I am sharing it and pinning it to alltheplaces!
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  2. William Dameron
    February 5, 2014 at 4:52 pm (1 year ago)

    Haters are gonna hate, but I think I love you! (In a totally platonic, I am a gay man and you are a wonderful, beautiful, wise woman kind of way)
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    • masalachica
      February 5, 2014 at 10:44 pm (1 year ago)

      Shell, do a search on frozen and gay or homosexual and blog and I bet some posts similar to this woman’s will come up. Apparently she was not the only one. Ha. Yeah, that so wasn’t the point of the movie and if it was, how great that it’s done with so much subtlety that nobody got it except some crazy people.

    • masalachica
      February 5, 2014 at 10:41 pm (1 year ago)

      Get your jeggings on and let’s go make some gay snowmen, like nobody has ever seen. Oh yeah, let’s bring it baby.

  3. Wanda
    February 5, 2014 at 5:06 pm (1 year ago)

    I wanted to just type HOLLA – but this blog site said that wasn’t enough words so…

    • masalachica
      February 5, 2014 at 10:40 pm (1 year ago)

      I Love you too.
      Oops, I was whispering.
      I LOVE YOU TOO!!!!!!!!

  4. Nicole Dash
    February 5, 2014 at 5:06 pm (1 year ago)

    I am so glad I didn’t read that original post and contribute to her rankings. How someone could turn a movie I found empowering and so full of love into something so hate ridden is beyond me. Thank you for responding, summarizing and taking her power away by not sharing her piece.
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    • masalachica
      February 5, 2014 at 10:40 pm (1 year ago)

      Apparently, Nicole, her post was not that isolated. There are several blogs out there strongly arguing this point. It’s looney tunes. I love the movie – everything about it – and thought the end was divine. XO

  5. Andrea
    February 5, 2014 at 5:08 pm (1 year ago)

    Your postscripts are perfection, and I agree with you about this:

    “If the movie Frozen is really about brainwashing kids into accepting someone’s sexual orientation, even if it might be different than their own, I will play it on repeat once it’s out on DVD. I will belt out the songs and teach my kids all the words and then sing some more, well beyond when they cover their tiny little ears and beg me to stop.

    Haters are gonna hate, but if I’ve done anything right, my kids won’t be one of them.”

    My thoughts exactly!
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    • masalachica
      February 5, 2014 at 10:38 pm (1 year ago)

      Andrea, I know I won’t have much control over what my kids believe – they are their own people – but if I can expose them to the beauty of having an open heart to all people in all walks of life, I would hope they would learn to know some of the aspects of empathy and compassion that so often seem to be missing from people who write posts like this woman’s.

      My kids will not be the haters. And if they are, they’re gonna have to deal with mama.

    • masalachica
      February 5, 2014 at 10:36 pm (1 year ago)

      Snowmen, and snow angels and little igloos. All with wine. Yup. Plenty o’wine. Then we can sing. It’s SOOO a date.

  6. Leigh Ann
    February 5, 2014 at 5:20 pm (1 year ago)

    I was telling my husband about the post, but couldn’t remember the blog. He googled it and those types of posts are EVERYWHERE. Mostly by catholic sites. It was ridiculous.
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    • masalachica
      February 5, 2014 at 10:35 pm (1 year ago)

      Leigh Ann, there is a board that you and both frequent that has that information on it. If you can’t find it, I will hunt it down and send to you.

  7. Peg
    February 5, 2014 at 5:21 pm (1 year ago)

    Amen sista!! I love love love the movie and am baffled by any agenda and even more offended as a Christian that people could spew such ignorant hate. I just don’t get the “hate gays” thing and never will.

    • masalachica
      February 5, 2014 at 10:34 pm (1 year ago)

      I find all the random theories that are popping up about the movie to be terribly confusing and really reaching. Like they are reaching so hard for something to further their own platform and this popular movie came along, so now let’s dissect it to bits. See you on the 22nd? XO

  8. Jennifer
    February 5, 2014 at 7:35 pm (1 year ago)

    “My kids won’t be one of them.” Hell yes. That is exactly how I feel. I want my kids to be kind, caring, loving individuals, and that means that they show kindness, care, and love to EVERYONE. Even if it is something they don’t agree with. And don’t give me any of that “love the sinner” bullshit either. If you are loving people then you are talking about their life in such a hate-filled manner.
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    • masalachica
      February 5, 2014 at 10:32 pm (1 year ago)

      I know we are soul sisters on this one. XO

  9. Kim
    February 5, 2014 at 7:56 pm (1 year ago)

    I am completely baffled that someone could make this connection.
    Love this movie – and if there is some hidden message of support and acceptance in there somewhere? I love it even more.
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    • masalachica
      February 5, 2014 at 10:31 pm (1 year ago)

      Baffled. Yes, that was the word. Flummoxed, baffled, confounded. All of those things.

  10. Elaine A.
    February 5, 2014 at 10:06 pm (1 year ago)

    Can I kiss you while we build our gay snowmen together? ;) xo

    p.s. Also SUPER pissed that this cook ruined it for me as well.
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    • masalachica
      February 5, 2014 at 10:30 pm (1 year ago)

      Sure we could kiss but wouldn’t that be a bit… hmm. gay? Wouldn’t want to send mixed signals! Oh whatever, we will kiss and make snow angels and screw anyone who dare says our snowmen don’t look gay enough.

  11. Galit Breen
    February 6, 2014 at 7:20 am (1 year ago)

    I love everything about this post — obviously. But those lines. omg girl — adore you. xo
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  12. Arminda
    February 6, 2014 at 10:24 am (1 year ago)

    Ohhhhhh where do I even begin?

    “No, there is too much. Let me sum up” in the words of the marvelous Inigo Montoya, he concludes his summary to the man in black with what assets they possess to storm the castle, steal the princess, kill Count Rugen and get out again: “Your brains, Fezzik’s strength, my steel.”

    I stand proudly next to you, Kiran, and next to everyone else united against the seemingly tunnel-visioned odds of the masses building unstable platforms of ludicrous rhetoric and fear-based slander, whose intent is to propagate more fear, hatred and bad behavior in a world that desperately needs more people willing to build snowmen together.

    Elsa’s powerful song is permission to herself to use her own brains, strength and steel and to live her life as she chooses: with her own self-realized inner awesomeness.

    I’m on Team Elsa — however you choose to interpret the song the message doesn’t really change, does it? BE YOU, no matter what form that takes, and know that your power and self actualization come from the air and the sky and the heart that beats at your very core.

    And for the love, for the first time in a long time I thought Disney knocked it out of the park with the best messaging they’ve sent young girls in a very long time: you are enough, you don’t need a man to complete you, family love matters, you can’t meet someone and get engaged and live happily ever after in less than a day, healthy relationships take time to build, just like snowmen.
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  13. Kristin Shaw
    February 6, 2014 at 12:50 pm (1 year ago)

    I love this post SO MUCH. You’re right – any monkey can have a blog, and the ones who use theirs to spread hate and intolerance are worse than monkeys, in fact. They’re fleas on ticks on dogs. Wait! That is an insult to dogs. xo
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  14. julie gardner
    February 6, 2014 at 2:57 pm (1 year ago)

    If there were more people on this earth like you (raising legions of children like you) we’d all be better off.

    p.s. I’d build a gay snowman with you (and our kids and we’d give it the best top hat ever!) except I live in California and it won’t RAIN. So. How about a gay scarecrow? Surfer? Wine sommelier? Anything. I’m in.

  15. Kate Coveny Hood
    February 6, 2014 at 7:30 pm (1 year ago)

    This is one of my favorite blog post titles. And on behalf of Jesus, I’d like to thank you for the “love thy neighbor” shout out (hey – why can’t I speak for Jesus? Everyone else seems to feel fairly entitled…)


  16. MomWithaDot
    February 7, 2014 at 12:40 am (1 year ago)

    Okay, I get it! She Googled top 10 movies, top 10 controversial topics, top 10 most searched terms, then married the three to give birth to this post – LOL!! The lengths people go to sensationalize, I say. Sigh!

    Had she spent all that time actually reading and understanding the Bible, she’d have been more at peace with herself. It’s for people like her, that God said,” Forgive them, for they know not what they do.”

  17. Arnebya
    February 7, 2014 at 11:38 am (1 year ago)

    I’m tired. I am simply tired. Everything means something means something else and we shouldn’t let it mean this or that. What’s hilarious is the words to the songs in Frozen could be used toward many other, more interesting things (as is most anything when you put your own ridiculous spin on it).
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  18. Katie
    February 7, 2014 at 8:53 pm (1 year ago)

    Coming from a place where I am teaching Macbeth and how scepters and swords all represent penises and manliness and whatnot, I can still say with confidence, “sometimes a cigar is just a cigar and sometimes disney is not gay…even if it would be totally cool if it was.”

    Also, Jesus would hang with a gay snowman, but not the overly righteous gay-bashers. That I am sure of.
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  19. Lady Jennie
    February 11, 2014 at 12:50 pm (1 year ago)

    I’m a Christian – even a fundamentalist – and I’m uncomfortable with this kind of writing (hers, not yours). I don’t know what else to say about that. It makes me blush, concerned, upset . . .
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  20. Shana Norris
    February 26, 2014 at 10:21 am (1 year ago)

    Just wanted to comment on this and let you know how much I enjoyed it. I linked here from BonBon Break. I had no idea this controversy was even happening. I’m a Christian – albeit a very ambivalent one (perhaps because of Christians like the ones you mention?) and most definitely a very liberal, progressive, LEFT-leaning one – and I find it both upsetting and embarrassing. My kids and I watched and loved Frozen and this would never in a million years have crossed my mind.
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  21. Greg
    March 2, 2014 at 2:39 pm (1 year ago)

    For starters, thanks for not linking to such a post. Haters will indeed go on hating which is why responses like yours are necessary.

    When Santa said it was “too bad”Rudolph was “different” & therefor couldn’t join the club, it didn’t serve as a signal for the left to start shouting. I would’ve been ok with that..but it didn’t.

    What’s funny is that allowing people to be who they are, without judging their preferences & decisions, allows us all to be accepting, as the big Guy upstairs would want it.

    How the lesson of such a movie/tune could be misconstrued as propaganda is beyond me & clearly you too. Such reactions are a waste of digital space but I can assume that the author believes the same of our views as well. However..I spent my youth in Catholic school, do I get a credit or would she perhaps make an exception for me? ;)

    Great post Kiran!

    – Greg

  22. Callie Feyen
    March 9, 2014 at 8:51 pm (1 year ago)

    Love this post, love Frozen, and LOVE Olaf! He was one of my favorite characters! (I wrote about him on my blog, too.)
    Great to meet you at the LTYM cast part last night!
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  23. Janice
    March 10, 2014 at 8:42 pm (1 year ago)

    Nothing offends me more than Christians distorting the Bible for their own ends because I am a gay loving Christian.


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