There’s Some Scary at Scary Mommy

I wrote a post yesterday about how I feel about recent gun violence in America. It’s over at Scary Mommy today. I want to make a few points clear:

1) My post does NOT call for the disarmament of Americans.

2) My reference to technology is to bring the discussion back to the point of perspective. We keep going back to the 2nd Amendment as if it is infallible or impossible to believe that it needs to be revisited. I am not suggesting the revocation of the law, but for us to evaluate what that means under the context in which we live.

3) Yes, driving a car without a license is illegal in all states, despite the Twitter storm that tried to tell me otherwise. For the guys who were on my back yesterday trolling the guncontrol hashtag on Twitter, if you have found some nuanced way under some provisional law where you can operate a vehicle without a license and not have the vehicle registered, congratulations. Those are not the guidelines most Americans live under.

And I don’t know many cops who would pull someone over and say, “Oh, you don’t have a license? Don’t worry. I just need your Passport. You only need a license to buy booze anyway.

4) This post does not in any way imply that we DON’T have a mental health situation on our hands in America. Proper mental health care, support and evaluation are a necessary component to a healthy society. We have a LOT of problems in America that contribute to crime. This post is strictly talking about what kind of regulation and enforcement should be in place around guns.

5) I believe that people should have the right to own guns for self-defense, protection and hunting. That is not being contested. What I am asking you to do is to set aside the guns for a moment and ask what the limits are to keep society safe and civilized. To keep our children safe. If you really believe that arming every American is the answer, I ask you to tell me what your vision is for this country. For our children.

Tell me with a straight face that you believe that’s what the Founding Fathers envisioned.

If anyone tells me that Thomas Jefferson’s vision was for us to applaud the idea of a Rambo nation in America, that person is clearly not familiar with anything about TJ, the founder of my Alma Mater, UVA.

6) Since Newtown, I have heard people call the massacre a “ploy” by the Federal government. I have seen a man who saved children that day being called an actor and a pedophile by gun control advocates. I have seen parents grieve but I feel like their grief is tarnished by those who are so extreme to call this a conspiracy.

I mean, I can’t even believe I have to write this, it’s so completely ridiculous.

I don’t know much about you people, but I have feeling a lot of you are part of the discussion over at Scary Mommy.

Thank you for confirming what I have thought.

I really should be scared. We all should.

My post was written with the knowledge that even if I just asked why we don’t call for greater regulation and enforcement around gun laws, that I would get a lot of opposition. That my words might be twisted or misinterpreted.

It happens.

Excuse me. It happened.

You’re either here because you agree. Or you’re here because you have issue with my sentiments.

In either case, thank you for visiting.

Before you comment I ask you to read this incredibly important piece. Wrestling With Details of Noah Pozner’s Killing. It’s a hard piece to read. One person in the article said, “I didn’t need to read that” about the kind of detail that was shared about what the guns actually physically did to the kids in Newtown. And what their bodies looked like when the parents wanted to cradle them in their arms.

We can handle the inconvenience of reading that. Just like those children had the horrifying inconvenience of living that and like their tormented parents have to remember after seeing that.

Every American needs to know what that means before they weigh in.


24 Comments on There’s Some Scary at Scary Mommy

  1. Wendy
    February 1, 2013 at 12:51 pm (2 years ago)

    That was a great post on scary mommy and I agree with you about TJ! Brave of you to go there. Wahoowa!

  2. Manisha
    February 1, 2013 at 4:10 pm (2 years ago)

    Good work, Kiran. I really hope you put more weight to the positive comments than the few crazy comments on that blog post on Scary Mommy. Noone is going to change their crazy minds. I read many comments that claimed to be pushed into thinking more deeply about gun control. While I understand your need to clarify some of your points here, I don’t believe you have to explain yourself to those who disagree with you, because again, noone is going to be able to change their crazy minds about guns.

    My in-laws are in law enforcement (but not my husband). One of my closest friends regularly participates in shooting competitions. I am not anti-gun, but very much pro-gun-control.

    I just saw my sister in FL and we got into an argument over the birthday party plans for her 3rd grader. The plans are to go to some sort of laser gun place. In other words, for his birthday, my nephew and his friends are going to go shoot each other up. This to me is irresponsible parenting. My sister claims that every once in a while, her son should get what he wants, especially if it’s his birthday. I wonder if this applies to other social ills such as rape and binge drinking…I guess if it’s only every once and awhile (Ugh. Gross.). I say shame on her for these plans and shame on those others parents who will allow their children to attend this birthday party.

    You are brave, especially with your words and I am proud to know you.
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    • Manisha
      February 1, 2013 at 4:23 pm (2 years ago)

      I’m back to say i just saw the photo of Noah and it made me cry. What a beautiful little boy. I just can’t believe that anyone who has looked at that photo could argue against gun-control.
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      • masalachica
        February 4, 2013 at 3:56 pm (2 years ago)

        I know Manisha. That picture and article left a hole somewhere in me. So sad.

  3. vanita
    February 1, 2013 at 4:26 pm (2 years ago)

    Bravo sistah! Bravo! Times have changed. I like to believe that this country’s forefathers hoped for a country that lived in Harmony and didn’t expect that guns would be used to hurt others outside of defense and war. i feel better regulations need to be enforced to avoid arming those who are not capable of better judgement. again, I applaud you girl.
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    • masalachica
      February 4, 2013 at 3:56 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks, Vanita. Hey – are you Indian? ;D

  4. Scary Mommy
    February 1, 2013 at 7:07 pm (2 years ago)

    I’ve just fallen in love with you. Again.

      • sarah sundayspill
        February 4, 2013 at 9:30 am (2 years ago)

        I’m with you ladies. Kiran, thanks for speaking up and speaking out. I’m so glad your voice is being heard. It’s important work and an important post :)

        • masalachica
          February 4, 2013 at 3:38 pm (2 years ago)

          Thank you, dear. And thanks for being so supportive of me. I really appreciate it!

  5. Erin Zito
    February 1, 2013 at 8:15 pm (2 years ago)

    Excellent, once again.

  6. Alison
    February 1, 2013 at 10:07 pm (2 years ago)

    My husband and I, we are not Americans. He is very into guns, in that he enjoyed learning how to use one, shoot one, and wishes he owned one. I am the opposite. This shit scares me. The idea of a gun in my house, even without ammo, locked away where the children can’t reach it, find it, use it – it still scares me. The idea that there are people out there, wielding these things, whether granted by occupation, necessity, law – it TRULY scares me.

    However, I am not opposed to sane, rational people owning and keeping guns at home for protection. What scares me, what I’m against, is the vehemence, the vitriol, the hatred spewed when it comes to talking about gun control. Rights. They talk about rights. (and my husband pointed out the same thing about the context in which the 2nd Amendment was drawn up, people did not use the kinds of guns that are around now)

    What about my right to a peace of mind? What about my right to knowing that only responsible people are owning guns, keeping them away from their children?

    Excellent piece, Kiran.
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  7. Nicole(Whole Strides)
    February 1, 2013 at 10:57 pm (2 years ago)

    What people fail to understand is that the Constitution is a living document. It’s meant to be altered and adapted and added to when warranted. The founding fathers knew the world would change and needs would change. They were very intelligent and they were very wise, but no, I don’t think they could imagine fully the world we live in today. And they definitely couldn’t imagine the way that humans had changed within this world.
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  8. Erin Zito
    February 2, 2013 at 12:38 am (2 years ago)

    I just tried to access the original post because I wanted to send a link to someone and it appears to have been removed. Very disappointing. Who knew that a site called Scary Momy would be too chicken to stand up to a few gun nutty trolls?

    • Erin Zito
      February 2, 2013 at 12:42 am (2 years ago)

      OK *mommy (damn sticky keyboard). And it appears to just have been removed from FB, not the original page. Still…

  9. ilene
    February 2, 2013 at 8:13 am (2 years ago)

    I am with Jill and Alison on this one. Beyond that, I’m pretty speechless at the moment.
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  10. Renée Schuls-Jacobson
    February 2, 2013 at 1:28 pm (2 years ago)

    Why do I get everything a day late? Poop. I’m going over now. I’m guessing you got it right. ANd if you are going to write about politics, you KNOW you are going to get trolls. I hope you know how to block ‘dem haters. Haters gonna hate. ;)

    You know I loves you, lover.
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    • masalachica
      February 4, 2013 at 3:49 pm (2 years ago)

      Oh I totally know I’m going to get trolls. I went there so I knew it was coming. just hate the haters who refuse to learn English and actually read what I am saying versus come up with completely made up interpretations.

      I loves you too, lover. Excited to see you soon!

  11. P
    February 3, 2013 at 10:16 pm (2 years ago)

    Kiran- I AM scared. One of my best mom friends thinks that all teachers should be armed; says that if they were well trained, then she would totally be in favor. This is a woman for whom I have immense respect, but I just cannot understand her view. As a former teacher and now mom, I have a few thoughts:
    1) Thank GOD a teacher’s union would never support this (please tell me there aren’t any that do).
    2) Oh yeah, because between training in their content area, in special ed/exception child, in standardized testing, and lesson planning they definitely have time to learn how to use a firearm.
    2b) Not to mention, having a gun in a room of 30 curious Kindergartners…hmmm…which is “less bad”: having the gun on your person for a kid to grab, or having it hidden somewhere for a kid to find?
    3) And really, NRA? One guard per school? Because there’s only one entrance to any school? Also, please visit my former school and meet our “security guard”: an overweight, 60 year old woman who suffers from asthma and who I’m pretty sure would run in the opposite direction if shit got real.
    The purpose of a gun is to harm someone, even if you are a “good” guy trying to stop a “bad” guy. More guns mean more harm; no one will ever convince me otherwise.
    I cried for 10 days after Newtown. It is unfathomable to me that people can fight against gun regulations (NOT banning guns) in light of all those lost little lives.

    • masalachica
      February 4, 2013 at 3:43 pm (2 years ago)

      I know. Some of the solutions themselves will just increase the risk level enormously. Not to mention the impacts that this will have on our children’s psyche. To just see guns out and about and completely embraced as a fact of their society. I feel like people who want to go in that direction have really lost touch with the world.

      I completely hear you and think exposing our kids to more guns isn’t the answer.

      It’s also so funny how people keep bringing up the idea of needing to create a militia. Why? So they can fight our young American soldiers? When they talk about a revolt against the government, who is it that they think they will be fighting?

      The argument is so distressing, but we have to find the right ground.

  12. Mary
    February 4, 2013 at 8:47 pm (2 years ago)

    Amen to all you wrote here and at Scary Mommy. You are a blessing! Thank you for speaking up with your magnificent voice!
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  13. Christine
    February 4, 2013 at 9:45 pm (2 years ago)

    Thank you Kiran for writing such a great post over at Scary Mommy. I read your post and I have to admit that those comment really frightened me. I know that by blogging, etc. we put ourselves out there to be criticized and heckled and whatever but still. Thank YOU for raising your voice.
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